I’m Cured

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Of my desire to co-sleep, that is.

Jane has been sleeping in her crib in her room for about two months now and although she occasionally finds her way into bed with us around 5 or 6, it’s just not the same. Taking a nap with her one day last weekend really reminded me of how much I missed snuggling with her at night.

So when Andrew was going to be out of the house for the night I thought it would be the perfect time to bring Jane back into bed with me. Great idea in theory but it worked out really poorly. She had only been waking up to nurse once or twice a night for the last week or so, but last night she wanted to nurse every 45 minutes!  I feel like I didn’t sleep at all and so at one point I even put her back in her crib, but sure enough, she woke up within an hour so I brought her back to bed.

Ugh.

I really wanted to have a good night and enjoy some extra cuddles, but all I ended up getting was a cure for the desire to co-sleep. Here’s hoping tonight is better since I have to work in the morning.

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The Governess of Highland Hills: A Review

In The Governess of Highland Hills by Carrie Turanksy, Julie Foster is a young missionary who moves from India to England to help provide for her ailing father by taking a job as a governess for a wealthy family.  She must endear herself to her employer’s two young children and two teenage nieces in order to keep her job, and struggles with her growing feelings for her employer.

Honestly, I was unimpressed with this book.  There are so many Christian fiction books that are well-written, with characters you love, and have plots that engage you, but this, unfortunately, was not one of them.  I felt that the conversations the characters were super religious and a bit unbelievable.  I really wanted to like this book, but I just didn’t.  Apparently this book is supposed to have huge appeal to Downton Abbey fans, but this fan did not take the bait.

If you’d like to check it out for yourself, you can grab a copy at Amazon, where you can also read a sample chapter.

I received a copy of this book for free as part of the Blogging for Books program through WaterBrook Multnomah.  All opinions are 100% mine.  Don’t forget to rate my review on their website!

I’m Granola

In case you hadn’t noticed, I’m kind of a granola individual. I saw an acupuncturist for two years before I got pregnant, eat organically, delivered at a birthing center, breastfeed, cloth diaper, baby wear, and use an amber teething necklace. So it shouldn’t be too much of a surprise that I wanted to go to a chiropractor and take Jane with me. I really had to do some convincing before Andrew was comfortable with the idea, but he eventually warmed it.

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Jane getting her first adjustment!

We ended up going to see Dr.  Spaulding a few weeks ago and I felt so much better after I was adjusted! It didn’t seem to have too much of an effect on Jane; it was her nap time by the time she was adjusted so she was a bit crabby, but I still managed to get some cute pictures of her.

We go back later this week for a follow up and I’m really looking forward to it. It’s quite a drive for us, but I’m quite comfortable with Dr Spaulding and these trips aren’t a regular thing so I think it’s worth it.

Have you ever been to a chiropractor? Would you ever take your kids?

My Midwives

It’s National Midwifery Week; it’s a time to recognize midwives for all that they bring to the table and the unique way that they touch our lives.  Midwifery is quite the controversial subject in many circles, which is unfortunate since numerous studies have shown better outcomes for women and babies when they are under the care of a midwife.  That being said, there are two very special women that I want to recognize who have touched my life in such a beautiful way: Jennie Joseph and Callie Bench.

Jennie with Jane

Jennie with Jane

Jennie is a pioneer in the field of midwifery.  She is internationally recognized for her contributions to the field and is a highly sought after guest speaker and teacher (she also has her own school).  She runs The Birth Place in Winter Garden where she also has a clinic for at-risk women who might otherwise not receive prenatal care and achieve outstanding outcomes.

As busy as she is, she is always accessible to her patients via e-mail, text, or phone.  She is phenomonal!  I can’t tell you how many times this nervous NICU nurse/pregnant momma asked the most random questions in between appointments and how many times I received a prompt and thoughtful answer.  I am so thankful for Jennie and her expert care of Jane and me during pregnancy.  I only wish that every woman had a practitioner like Jennie.

Callie with Janie

Callie with Janie

I met Callie when I was 20-something weeks pregnant and really struggling with sciatic nerve pain.  She is both a licensed midwife and massage therapist, and came highly recommended by a friend at work.  After just one massage I felt so much better!  And Andrew even commented on how great my mood was after.  I ended up having regular appointments with Callie throughout my pregnancy and I give her so much credit for how comfortable I felt throughout and how perfectly positioned Jane was during labor and delivery.

Callie was an invaluable resource to me throughout my pregnancy and beyond.  She has such a calming presence and is so encouraging (plus she has magic hands!!); she has become a treasured friend.  Callie is a credit to midwives everywhere and I am so thankful for her!

So to my two favorite midwives—Thank you for all that you do!  Thank you for the way that you empower women and take exceptional care of women and their babies.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

A Letter to Me

Dear Erin,

You are about to embark on an incredible adventure—becoming a mom.  I know that you think that you’ve got the whole “baby care” thing covered, but I want to gently tell you that you don’t.  You love babies and have taken care of them your whole life; you’ve even made it your career!  But your sweet baby will throw you for a loop.  She won’t act anything like the babies you take care of at work and it will take some time to get to know her and her particular needs.  This does not make you a failure or less than.  Let me say that again.

You. are. not. a. failure.

On the subject of that beautiful baby.  She’s not going to sleep like a NICU baby, but that’s because she’s healthy.  There is nothing wrong with her.  She is normal.  This lack of sleep sucks.  It sucks big time and you will get to a point where you feel like you might either die or lose your mind if you don’t get more sleep.  But you won’t.  You will survive.  This period of time that seems so huge now is actually but a breath and in three months, you will barely remember it.  These first four to six weeks are really, really difficult, but like I said, you will barely remember them in just a few short months.  You can’t enjoy every moment and you will feel guilty for it that, but the people who say that the initial newborn period is wonderful are either a. lying, or b. lying.  You can’t enjoy every moment, but there will be moments to treasure.  Journal when you can (as if you need one more thing to do), because you will soon forget.

When you are overwhelmed by people, even family, say so.  You are sleep deprived and just learning how to be a mom.  It’s okay to want or need people to just leave you alone.  But if you need help, ask.  Your family loves you and wants to help you in any way they can.

Go to a La Leche League meeting before Jane comes, if you can, and if you can’t, go as soon as you feel comfortable after she’s born.  The support that these women provide will help you to keep your head above water.  Being a new mom is really hard.  I know you don’t understand this now, all you can think of is holding your sweet girl in your arms and how good it will feel to get rid of your pitting edema.  It’s okay not to understand, who can blame you?  Just know that you are not alone.  You are surrounded by such amazing and gracious moms who will give you support in person, via this blog, e-mail, Facebook, Twitter, you name it.  Moms are awesome.  You are in good company.

P1100356You can do this, Erin.  You will feel overwhelmed by the enormity of the task of parenting and how intense Jane’s need for you will be, but you will get through it and you will fall more and more in love with your daughter each day.  You will even begin to see why people decide to have more than one child.  You are a blessed woman and you will be equipped for this task.  Trust God, trust yourself.

You are loved and you will do great!

Love,

You (15 weeks from now)